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P.S. Changed my mind - was going to send this by regular mail Thanksgiving Evening Hello, darling- This should arrive just about as you’re sitting down to your Christmas dinner! - Well, maybe a little before. I was afraid that holidays like this which have a personal significance for us would be rather unhappy or depressing occasions out here. Somehow they’re not; they don't spoil the real thing by being a poor invitation of it (they don't seem to have any correction at all) and for that I'm grateful; when we take up again where we left off it will seem the most natural thing in the world- As for our little Christmas ceremony, that's something special that I look forward to without any feeling of sadness or regret, because it will give me a feeling of being momentarily closer to [pg 2] you than ever, instead of reminding me that we are temporarily apart. I'm already reminded of the latter fact only too often. I love you so very much, darling - tonight just before chow two (2 unmarried men of 28-30 and myself) or three of us were talking about women and sex in general in the lusty, straightforward way that men have: about what makes for a good “lay” (not a woman who is oversexed or overanxious, but still one with plenty of life and honest gusto); how usually women of about 30 who have been married make the best sexual partners, when they have no complexes as a result of having been unhappily married; about the case (from a purely pragmatic, amoral and mutually satisfying standpoint) for and against virginity in women at the time of marriage (we came to no conclusion, except that no two women- or occasions - are quite alike)… -and I find myself feeling very happy about the way things have worked out for us. While I still don't take any particular stand on the subject of virginity per se, one way or the other, I agree with Henry that nothing in extra-marital relations can approach [pg 3] a constantly developing and deepening relationship between two individuals for whom sex is basic but not everything. Such a relationship can do more for each of those individuals, I think, than any other thing can; it is capable of fostering greater subtlety as well as more plain [fun?] - and certainly [?] being the maximum source of strength, both individual and collective. I still hold to me [freedom?] on the terms which you prefer (as I would toward you), but without feeling committed to exercise it. The [?] is that even while I feel just plain lusty and in need of a good fuck once in a while, I seldom think of sex except in connection with you. [I?] [?] (as perhaps every married man is at one time or another) jealous of my freedom. No matter where I am or what I do, I know that it is you I really want. Dream of me tonight, darling Warren [Menu & Notations, Not transcribed] On the whole it was a very pleasant change. Not at all reminiscent of home, thought there was a certain holiday spirit about it.
